This is a guest blog submitted by Hopelessromantic I read
this article on CNN a while back about various therapies women with low sex drives are trying. This article made me happy because it often seems to like society doesn't care about women's sex drive and that society believes there is no such thing as sexual dysfunction in women. It's as if they don't care if women enjoy sex or not.
There's still a bit of this leftover attitude from long ago that women don't need to enjoy sex or be sexually satisfied (or that it's natural for women not to enjoy sex or have a sex drive). They're just there to carry a child as the product of sex.
First off, that's not true.
If women weren't meant to enjoy sex, the human race would be much less reproductive. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable so that you want to do it and thus procreate. A sex drive is natural instinct. So why is it that it is almost taboo for women to enjoy sex? (for example, a woman who sleeps around is a slut but a man who sleeps around is looked upon as cool? Not fair). Or to talk about enjoying sex. Not that I'm promoting promiscuity for either gender, mind you (that gets dangerous). I'm just saying that everything's really unequal sexually for men and women.
As with all gender gaps, this makes me rather angry. I want to enjoy sex and I definitely have a sex drive. And I expect a man that I am having sex with to make sure that I am enjoying it.
And I'd like to think that if I don't have a sex drive for some reason in the future, there will be a Viagra-like option for me so that I am still able to have a sex drive. It's time people started worrying more about women's needs too.
Do you think society should be concerned about a woman's sex drive? Will there be something for women to take similar to Viagra for men?
Comments (26)
I agree! Women are no different from men, we need loving too. And hey, I probably have a bigger sex drive than my boyfriend - which actually seems to be somewhat common when you get past the superficiality and stereotyping of the media.
"(for example, a woman who sleeps around is a slut but a man who sleeps around is looked upon as cool? Not fair)" - Well, technically, they're both sluts. Hahah. If you want to sleep around, be my guest, I don't care if you do. But I would never consider dating a man who did. Not cool at all, and you obviously don't share my views on sex - crazy and often, but monogamous and loving!
Let's remember that's it's also possible to have a sex drive and "sexual morals," or monogamy, and a belief in sex/love being sacred. (I'm not saying you're bad if you don't have "sexual morals," it's just a catch-all term I'm using.)