Ms. Cappuccino I was listening to the radio the other day, and according to a recent study, bigger girls have better sex lives.
The radio show host mentioned that a specious reason for the result is that bigger girls have lower self-esteem. She then quickly noted that despite all the pressure to be thin, it turns out that far more thin girls have problems in the bedroom.
I think this study is extremely interesting. Unscientifically applying the situation to my own group of friends, I can definitely say that the curvier girls in the bunch are far more sexually active, and there is no low self-esteem about them.
Why do you think bigger girls have better sex lives? Who has more self-esteem, girls that are thicker or girls that are thinner?
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I'm curvier than a lot of my friends and it makes me really self-conscious, even though I'm closer to being underweight than being overweight ((I'm not either, though, I'm just healthy)). And I'm certainly the least sexually active. That could just be me, though.
hmm i think as long as the girl is comfortable in her own skin, regardless of her size, will feel more sexually attractive.
they have more to love.
It's more acceptable to have curves these days. Because the majority of women do, because "real women have curves", because skinny is automatically associated with anorexia...
I'm skinny and I have very little self-esteem. Too many years of hearing that men want some fat on their ladies and that I'm not a "real woman", I guess.
I'm not so sure if it's true. But i am on the curvy side and i am a bit over the weight I'm supposed to be. And compared to my thinner friends, I do have a better sex life even better than the ones who have boyfriends like I do. But I have a high self-esteem. Always have had a high self-esteem.
Fat girls have better sex lives because they give it up more. A hot girl doesn't need to perform well because she can get guys hooked on looks alone. The fatty needs that extra milkshake to keep boys coming to her yard.
I agree with this only because it somehow makes sense in a very weird way--but I can't explain why. Part of it, I think, has something to do with your sexual partner looking beyond stereotypes or Hollywood-types of beautiful women. It's a little bit extra effort(or it is just human nature) and a HUGE payoff.
my curvier friends definately experience more than I do. None of that is self esteem though...they really like thier intimate time hahaha. Im a midway girl, dont got curves, but im not skinny.
Many things correlate here. One thing is that bigger girls have lower self-esteem. And in my opinion, lower self-esteem increases one's chance of sexual behavior, due to the therapeutic benefits of the sex and the thought that sex will increase one's self esteem (maybe that's a stretch). Another thing is openness. A lot of bigger girls use being sexually open as a way to attract men over their more attractive counterparts. Now, I'm not saying that overweight girls are sluts. That is not true at all.. it takes more than simplying enjoying sex to be a slut. I can't tell you that I've found many overweight girls that have been like "Ew, I'm not having sex you, not until then". A lot are ready to go. They are a bit better in bed.. as long as their size isn't too dissimilar.
@coolmonkey@xanga - lmfao
this is kind of ridiculous and unquantifiable. there are so many assumptions going on here, and i see where they come from, but they're also dangerous in that they essentialize certain people (like that larger girls have to "work harder," etc - there are plenty of unattractive skinny girls, people.... and there are plenty of attractive women of all sizes who have less sex than other women).
i'm a curvy girl m'self of about average size (size 11-12?), and i love sex and i'd say i have lots of it in my life... but this isn't because of my size or my shape, it's because of my confidence (which is related to my sense of self on many different levels, not just my size) and my love of being physical... so say what you want, but most things are socially constructed (learned, created, etc) and not "biological" or inherent like we tend to think they are.
@coolmonkey@xanga - lmao.
Here's my take as a "fat" girl. I'm less likely to randomly hook up with people, but if someone genuinely likes me and I like them then I'll begin having sexual relations with them. I've been told multiple times that I'm much more outgoing in bed than their previous skinny sexual partners.
I also think part of it is seeing the way people (especially men) react to my body. Men LIKE breasts, and being overweight often means you have plenty to let them play with. And it's hard not to enjoy them myself either, they make dresses and shirts look better.
I don't think self esteem is necessarily tied to your body size or what you look like. There are plenty of women who are super thin who hate themselves, while I've known bigger women who loved themselves. I've been skinny, overweight and skinny again. At my heaviest, I still had more self-esteem than when I was 18 and skinny. It really depends on a lot more factors than just the external ones. Faith, health, support system, upbringing, priorities, etc.
As long as woman recognizes she is beautiful, curves and all, no matter what her size, her self-esteem will be much higher. As long as she can love herself, people will recognize her confidence and admire her for that.
As for a sex life, like I said, a woman who can love her body is more confident and because of this she is not ashamed for a man to see her naked.
p.s. I'm kind of tired of the assumption that overweight people are going to be easier or somehow more promiscuous b/c they are desperate. This was not the case with me at all; not now either. Just like not all single mothers or divorced women are easy either. I'm really tired of stereotypes; we're all individuals. Let's stop categorizing each other!
Just b/c someone does not fit what society in general would like to think of as the most desirable, does not mean that he/she is going to be desperate. Not everyone focuses on the superficial. Thank God, He does not view us the same way we view each other and the world.
@coolmonkey@xanga - lol!
@YouTOme@xanga - I totally agree with you.
Because nobody wants to fuck a bag of bones?
To be honest, curvier women are not necessarily more desperate. Nor are they exaggerating their sexual activities because of their low self esteem.
But I have to say I do have incredible sex for a thin girl.
i don't know. My sister is the person i know that it's most comfortable about her sexuality and she's stick thin. I don't know if being thin has anything to do with it though
bigger girls in fact, do have low self-esteem. hence the sexually active trait. they think that being active in that sense will somehow make up for how they see themselves in the eyes of others. don't be fooled.
Im thin and always had a pretty low self-esteem. Especially these days when all that men want is a woman with curves, or "thick" women. I have boobs haha but Im far from curvy or thick. Some of us are just naturally thin. Im starting to feel better in my own skin though and I have a boyfriend who loves all size 1 of me.
Are the girls in that Dove picture considered "big"? I mean like the one on the far right, she can't be more than a size 8 or 10, and I would definitely not consider those sizes 'fat' or 'bigger'. I know (because I am a size 10) that you can still be these sizes and have a relatively flat stomach (like there's a little squish there but no rolls or anything), and I never really consider myself to be large. Maybe I'm wrong though, In any event, if I am considered a bigger girl I don't have sex. I am waiting until I'm married for someone who really loves me. And either way I love and respect my body for what it is. It lets me run and swim and play sports, and I like it. But then again, it's taken me 19 years to get here, so thanks for that, media.
I think it is very rude to assume that a curvy girl is going to be more promiscuous bc she has low self-esteem. I am a size two and am self conscious at times and have a great sex life. I don't think size has anything to do with it. There are a lot of factors involved, and it seems like a blanket statement to say that bigger women have better sex lives. What is better anyways, quantity or quality?
Having sex with someone makes you feel accepted, and that's a huge self-esteem boost to the self-esteem starved obese population. However, if you are thin/attractive, you probably already get enough attention without having to put out, so you're obviously going to be less sexually active.
And the reason why thin girls have problems in the bedroom is because no matter what you look like, you can fall victim to a bad self-image. I think thinner people try to hide their imperfections even with their clothes off (because they'd rather be bad in the bedroom than have their bodily flaws noticed), whereas if you're already obviously overweight and your partner knows it, what's there to try and hide?