I was talking to one of my very old friends the other day...catching up and reminiscing about the old days, when he started talking to me about one of our mutual friends.
He started to look very concerned, and said he needed to tell me something, but he didn't know how to say it and he didn't want me to freak out. I started to feel that knot in your stomach that you feel when someone is about to tell you something terrible, and you don't want to know about it....but you do at the same time.
He told me that our friend, who we will just call Tom, had started to get pretty heavily into drugs. He had always been kind of a pothead, but he explained that he is now doing coke and taking pain killers on a daily basis, and mixes in various different drugs when the opportunity presents itself. He is living with his girlfriend who is also a drug addict, and both of them have now reached the point that they will do basically anything to get their fix.
As my friend was explaining the situation, he told me that Tom had recently stolen his credit card and taken out well over three thousand dollars of his personal funds. Not only that, but had lied to him about various things that he was just starting to find out. My friend was very hurt by this, and upset that Tom would do this to him. They have since ended communication and no longer see each other.
It dawned on me throughout this conversation how serious this situation was. They had contacted Tom's parents, who recently came to get him and take him to rehab, but he returned back after only a couple of days. They didn't make him go to rehab. Instead they drove him back to his girlfriend. They knew all about Tom's situation.....so why didn't they do more? Why didn't they make him go to rehab? Why didn't they try harder to get him to go?
He was one of my friends from growing up, but we haven't really spoken in a while. Is it my place to even try to talk to him about this issue? Or do I just wait and hope for the best?
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