"I personally think that unless someone is HONESTLY 100% concerned about a very close friend or family members weight based on their HEALTH they should shut up about it, most people claim its about health when they speak up, but in all honestly it is about image. It isn't your body so mind your own business. Sometimes people gain (or lose) weight, it's okay, within moderation, you may not know what is going on in their life that caused that change. If someone says/implies you are fat and you don't like it, then change it. But if you aren't fat, just bloated or have something else going on, why not just let their comment go, and not worry about it. There are worse things in the world then someone thinking you are fat or someone you know gaining a few pounds. "
Do you think it's true, is calling out someone for gaining weight more about image than health?
I agree with this statement. I would never tell someone they gained weight especially if they are healthy.
Meh, I don't know. It's the image that they're looking at when they notice the weight, but unless they're absolute jerks I don't think they'd call it out JUST because of image. I'm sure some people do, I don't doubt that, but I don't think people are jerks enough to call it out every time they see a little extra weight.
Some of my sisters call out my weight all the time and I know it's not for my health. I'm the hippo in my family and my skinniest sister feels the need to mention it every time she sees me.
Calling people out on their weight for any reason other than their health is just plain rude. And its sad, because I know for a fact that girls comment on other girls' weight all of the time, simply for the joy of making that girl feel miserable, or just to make THEMSELVES feel better. Ridiculous.
Depends on who says it and how they say it.
If someone is truly concerned about the person's health due to them being overweight, that's fine. However, if someone is just trying to act cool and judge another person based on their weight then that person needs to be slapped. I mean there is nothing funny about lowering someone's self esteem just to feel good. Plus, the people who do the teasing and whatnot will undergo the same process soon enough.
unless they're very overweight, it's definitely about image.
what isn't about image these days?
Image has always been a huge thing....and yet if you look around so has health recently, infact I think it has risen close to the top in order of importance to a lot of peoples' lives. So in all honesty, I think both go hand-in-hand or are even one in the same. I, personally, find it unattractive for someone to be unhealthy (and I don't mean that in terms of weight alone).
to me it's a little bit of both. of course image over health because when i look good on the outside, i want to make myself look good on the inside as well...it's definitely a motivator for me.
I think it depends... My brother is pretty heavy (he's big boned and a body builder), and my mom tells him about it. It's more because she's concerned with his health rather than the way he looks. He's almost 300 pounds and he's about 6 feet. He isn't cut yet, so he could still shed some weight.
With me it was the same thing. But I've lost a lot of weight, so she doesn't say anything anymore. However, there's other people who say if I get toned, I'll have a "sexy body." That I'm average weight now, so if I just tone up, I'll be like a supermodel (I'm pretty tall and supposedly have model facial features).
It really just depends. I think a lot of people say it, though, because of body image rather than body health.
Much madd love,
Christian
I agree with that comment. And I think that calling someone out would more be about image! How rude! But really you can't answer a question like this the same for every situation!
I always joke that I'm loosing weight to be healthy for my husband and sexy for myself. It seems wrong if I'd say it the other way around :)
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I agree with this statement. I would never tell someone they gained weight especially if they are healthy.
Meh, I don't know. It's the image that they're looking at when they notice the weight, but unless they're absolute jerks I don't think they'd call it out JUST because of image. I'm sure some people do, I don't doubt that, but I don't think people are jerks enough to call it out every time they see a little extra weight.
Some of my sisters call out my weight all the time and I know it's not for my health. I'm the hippo in my family and my skinniest sister feels the need to mention it every time she sees me.
Calling people out on their weight for any reason other than their health is just plain rude. And its sad, because I know for a fact that girls comment on other girls' weight all of the time, simply for the joy of making that girl feel miserable, or just to make THEMSELVES feel better. Ridiculous.
Depends on who says it and how they say it.
If someone is truly concerned about the person's health due to them being overweight, that's fine. However, if someone is just trying to act cool and judge another person based on their weight then that person needs to be slapped. I mean there is nothing funny about lowering someone's self esteem just to feel good. Plus, the people who do the teasing and whatnot will undergo the same process soon enough.
unless they're very overweight, it's definitely about image.
what isn't about image these days?
Image has always been a huge thing....and yet if you look around so has health recently, infact I think it has risen close to the top in order of importance to a lot of peoples' lives. So in all honesty, I think both go hand-in-hand or are even one in the same. I, personally, find it unattractive for someone to be unhealthy (and I don't mean that in terms of weight alone).
to me it's a little bit of both. of course image over health because when i look good on the outside, i want to make myself look good on the inside as well...it's definitely a motivator for me.
I think it depends... My brother is pretty heavy (he's big boned and a body builder), and my mom tells him about it. It's more because she's concerned with his health rather than the way he looks. He's almost 300 pounds and he's about 6 feet. He isn't cut yet, so he could still shed some weight.
With me it was the same thing. But I've lost a lot of weight, so she doesn't say anything anymore. However, there's other people who say if I get toned, I'll have a "sexy body." That I'm average weight now, so if I just tone up, I'll be like a supermodel (I'm pretty tall and supposedly have model facial features).
It really just depends. I think a lot of people say it, though, because of body image rather than body health.
Much madd love,
Christian
I agree with that comment. And I think that calling someone out would more be about image! How rude! But really you can't answer a question like this the same for every situation!
I always joke that I'm loosing weight to be healthy for my husband and sexy for myself. It seems wrong if I'd say it the other way around :)