Thursday, 02 July 2009

  • Putting On Relationship Weight

    I have been on this "Get Fit"regimen for almost 5 months now and as I've blogged previously, I don't see it as much as others do, but apparently, I have lost some weight. The clothes do fit better, sometimes it just hangs on me and I've dropped back down from a size 2 to a size 0.

    I've never been a stick thin girl and weight gain is pretty prominent on my frame as I've always been quite sporty and thus, not the average stick thin looking Asian girl around, but I am happy with the way my legs look. However, I have noticed this scary thing:

     I TEND TO PUT ON WEIGHT WHEN I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP.

    Ex boyfriend: Pre-relationship weight? 110 lbs.  

    After 3-6 months of being with him, I came to realize I had put on almost 7 lbs... AND IT SHOWED TERRIBLY ON MY 5'4 FRAME! After getting into a pattern, I went back to my 110 lbs.

    Next, college happened and I started to make full use of the awesome gym that OSU had and I was easily at 108 lbs on most days... that is until I got complacent and met my new (and current) boyfriend.

    Current boyfriend: Pre-relationship weight? 108 lbs.

    I've been with him for 2 years and after the 6 months and all the Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year meals with his generous family, I timidly stepped on the scales and had the shock of my life. I was at 120 lbs. It disgusted me because the last time I was that heavy was when I was a fat kid that didn't care much about my weight!!

    I had to take things under control and start working out. So I did, we went to the gym more and started swimming more, ate more home cooked meals and sleeping at normal hours, spent more time running around with the dog, etc. By the end of the next Christmas (2008) I had gone down to a yoyo-ing 112-114 lbs. The losing of the 6 lbs was a whole lot harder.

    Now, we are apart doing a long distance relationship, but not for much longer. I have taken the time to run, do weights and more ab workouts. I have never been in better shape and I am less obsessed with what the scales read because I know my fat percentage has gone down and although I am at 111 lbs now, I know it's muscle I have gained. And I know that 110 lbs is probably my set weight so I am not that bummed if I can't get down to 105 lbs or something.

    However, I am worried when he and I are reunited. Will the excitement and adrenaline of being together again cause another weight gain for me?? Has this happened to any of you?


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Comments (37)

  • haloed@xanga

    Wow, don't I feel like a fatass compared to you?

    No matter.  I was 120lbs before this relationship, now I'm 140lbs.  I'm about 5'3" and my weight is HEALTHY.  Most of my weight is accumulated in my breasts, and with a little chub on my stomach that I would like to be gone.
  • haloed@xanga

    @TemptingFate_Taz@xanga - Yeah I hear you, I'm 5'3" with a curvy shape, (not curvy in the gut mind you) and I'm not fat, and I'm DEFINITELY not 120lbs anymore, I was very skinny when I was that much.  I think your frame plays a huge part in weight.

    I hate reading this shit cause it makes me feel like I'm fat, when I'm not.
  • uglykills6@xanga

    do i outweight u all?? i gained a horrible crazy 35 lbs. in a relationship. i can lose it really fast, and i'm getting there... but i took a few steps 4ward and then like 20 backwards!!! :/

  • chocolate__addict@xanga

    Okay, to comment fairly...

    Agreements: Yes, the situation has definitely happened to me so many times I can't count it. Especially in long term relationships, after the honeymoon period, you want to spend more time indoors cuddling, etc. with your boy. It's natural. Sitting more + sleeping/staying in usually leads to weight gain. Also, the fact that your boy will lurve you long time means that the issue of weight is less meaningful as opposed to time being single (when appearances DO make a difference).

    Disagreements: Okay, so you really think 120 is a lot? I'm the same height as you are and 139, of which my entire lower body is mostly muscle and I do admittedly have a much bigger butt and boobs than MOST Asian girls. According to your judgment of weight, I'd probably be severely overweight then. -_- and I take offense to that.

    Not only that, but you know, as a fellow Asian, I'd have to say most Asian girls have it easier in the weight-loss area: it's so hard for girls of other ethnicities to slim down compared to us. So this entry is kind of just tactless to write about when your weight isn't even an issue.
  • crushediamonds@xanga

    @chocolate__addict@xanga - What I am trying to get to is that I GAINED weight. And to me yes, the weight gain is significant because I've always had been at my set weight and the only times I do gain weight is during a relationship. How I perceive my weight to be is all down to me, I am not saying every other girl at 5'4 should be 120 or less. So don't take offence to that.
  • a_single_raindrop@xanga

    Ohh what is your get fit regimen? I gained quite a bit of weight during my first year of college. >.> The comments "wow, you look ... fatter" aren't making me happy so I want to lose 5-10 pounds. I can't really say anything about "relationship" weight because I'm still with my boyfriend, and I can't really attribute any of my gained weight to him. We eat out a lot, but we've been eating out a lot since we started to date. It's college and the lack of exercise. >.<

  • Btrfly_Wngs@xanga

    I think I gained weight when I first started dating my husband because I was happy. He found me attractive at 130, 175, and 190 (who the hell knows why?) and so I found myself attractive because he found me attractive so I was less hard on myself.
    Note: It was only relationship gain up to 150. The rest was college stress-eating. Lol.
    2nd note: Sooo not 190 anymore. Just in case you cared.
  • testubebaby@xanga

    it's a conspiracy - boyfriends fatten you up so that
    a) other boys won't check on you
    b) even if you wanted to run away, you'd be uch slower
  • crushediamonds@xanga

    @a_single_raindrop@xanga - I have definitely cut down my addiction to pop (coke mainly) and I do a lot of running, on the days that I don't, I do brisk walking.. But I've recently added more weights into the "fitness regimen" too. Yoga has helped quite a bit!


    @Btrfly_Wngs@xanga - My boyfriend told me the same, that he loves me no matter what. But I couldn't help but feel upset when my jeans were poking at me in the wrong areas. Hahah.


    @testubebaby@xanga - HAHAHHA. But what kinda boyfriend wouldn't want his gf to look good?
  • Yipz

    I feel you! I gained something like 15 lbs ever since I dated my girlfriend, all because I'd much rather stay at home and eat with her then go run or hit the gym...

    gah.
  • juli_c@xanga

    relationship weight gain never heard of that one

  • littlelucca@xanga

    i've also heard of people saying they get more acne when in relationships. i have a theory its because theyre extra hormonal lol. this may be similar.

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