Saturday, 04 July 2009

  • The Ugly Truth About Dieting

      

    If you are trying to lose weight, I’ve heard it’s good to let people around you know that you’re dieting. In doing so, they can help you, especially on days when you have to eat out. But how about when skinny people are in the same situation? (Not necessarily to lose weight, but just to stay in shape). Well, then that becomes a totally different story. This may not apply to everyone, but most of the time when skinny or fit people try to stick to their healthy diets, I've noticed their female friends can secretly turn into their diet enemies.

    Like many other thousands of girls out there, gaining weight is one of my worst nightmares. I mean, I consider myself to be pretty fit, but I'm definitely not one of those people who have the perfect gene for staying thin regardless of how much I eat. I do have to work out every day and eat healthy to stay in shape.

    But often times when I go out to eat with female friends whom I haven't seen for a while or with people I've recently met, they tend to react negatively to my healthy lifestyle. Whenever I order salads or sandwiches with no mayo or cheese on it, they would always ask me, “OMG, are you on a diet or something? You are so skinny, you need to gain some weight!” Or sometimes when they order desserts, they would just take a tiny bite and say, “They are sooo good! But I'm so full now. I would SO eat the whole thing if I haven't eaten that last piece of chicken for lunch. Why don't you have some more? They're all yours!” First, I thought they were being really nice and actually “offering” me those treats. But I've realized they were just trying to feed me more and ruin my diet. I mean, why do girls suddenly become so competitive when it comes to dieting?

    Has this ever happened to you? Have your friends tried to sabotage your diet?

     

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Comments (39)

  • sweetcaroline09@xanga

    yep, i had one friend who worked in a restaurant and i found out years later she always served me coke when i asked for diet coke just to spite me and my "quest for fitness."
  • fried_ryce@xanga

    YES. IT'S SO ANNOYING.
  • mystupidweight@xanga

    If you are going to go out with friends, and you know it, eat really annoyingly healthy that day, or the ay before. It won't fuck up your diet as much
  • s_h_a_sha@xanga

    yeah!!!!! lol i dont get it! they can diet too if they want!
  • shes_lump@xanga

    ugh ALL the time. sooo annoying.
  • MochaSprinkle@xanga

    I had the guy at Subway trying to heckle me into mayo and cheese. It was funny and frustrating and slightly embarrassing since I wasn't the only person in the store. And sometimes I'll get an appetizer as my entree if I know I want dessert. But eh, some people think just because you are trying to lead a healthy lifestyle that you're not eating or something similar and silly. Nothing you can really do...
  • joycemiles@xanga

    Haha! I totally understand, but then some of my friends really do think that I don't need to worry about my weight- they're not competitive or anything like that. They just think i'm crazy and that I don't need to worry- which I don't worry all the time. But whenever I say that I need to work out, they're like "you're skinny already!" when I really mean that I need to get in shape- not trying to be thin 

  • Lucy_has_a_secret@xanga

    yes my mate picked up on my eating disoder which btw im very good at hiding and then started coping traits so i make a big deal when im with her of how much i eat and hopw attractive it is to have some meat on you and how stupid she is when she doesnt eat and that it will make her gain in the long run.


    I do this for 2 reasons.


    1. No one should ever have to go through the shit any girl with and eating disoder does.


    2. She CANT be thinner than me becasue ive worked hard to get this fit and i hate the way she copys my everymove. Basically i am thinner i am the thinnner.


    They you go proof we are so competitive when it comes to who is the hottest!!!
  • decembriel@xanga

    @sweetcaroline09@xanga - Wow. 
  • xclevermealsx@xanga

    Oh I know how that goes. Such is the vindictive nature of girls.
  • livethenightlife@xanga

    They're just secretly jealous and want you to eat more so they don't feel quite so "fat" for eating more. Also I think people these days still don't know the difference between "diet" and "trying to stay fit". It's important to tell your friends that you're not on a diet, because you're not. You're just trying to maintain your health and maybe build some muscle. They can't argue with that. (But, you know, it's okay to pig out every on ce in a while)
  • nrb2233@xanga

    Oh yeah... it's really irritating.  I don't have that problem as much now because a lot of my friends now are pretty thin (thinner than me, actually).  But even they will push food off on me... But yeah, the worst is when people tell you to eat the junk food because you're thin, and then you have to explain that you're thin because you don't usually eat that way. 

  • KassieintheSkywithDiamonds@xanga

    HAHAHA that's horrible. No it hasn't happened to me. Not intentionally I don't think.
  • CasualLove@xanga

    This is very true. Girls can be cruel and devious...very sly. 
  • StonePink@xanga

    yep, very true.  Especially as i'm vegan, i get lots of stick for that, it's difficult to stand your ground but definitely worth it in the long run.  I find it gets easier to deal with as you get used to it and more prepared for it to happen, 

    Great article, xxxx 
  • ETF_is_love@xanga

    Yeah, I'm pretty skinny but I like to eat healthy, just because it makes me feel better, and my friends are always trying to feed me chips and stuff. And then call me anorexic when I tell them I don't like greasy food (I really don't, it grosses me out).

    Girls suck sometimes.
  • gypsybird@xanga

    my friends and i don't really talk about food or dieting or anything. maybe that's just me, i don't know. i don't like talking about it and i really don't think it's a community's business; i think one's diet is far too personal of a lifestyle choice to let anyone else get involved (other than a nutritionist, that is). 

    then again, i do have an eating disorder; so perhaps i am not the best judge here. do as i say, not as i do. all my friends ever say about my diet/weight is that the latter is too little and the former is nonexistent (save for the excesses of drugs and alcohol... but they don't fervently oppose either of these, seeing as they drink in copiousness and enjoy their drugs- though maybe not as much as i do- and know that there is nothing they will say to make me change because i am terribly muleheaded). i know that this is only because they care about me, however.
  • lil_squirrel4ever@xanga

    I hear you.  I am naturally petite, but have to work really hard to keep in shape, which I do,  I try to eat healthy and stay away from certain foods/drinks, but I get a lot of insensitive comments sometimes from people--usually people bigger than me. I feel it's because they think we don't have to work for it, and they are trying to bring us down.
  • KiraWuzHerexD@xanga

    UH. I'm the opposite. I'm underweight and my friends know it. So we all try to stuff me up so I can be nice and healthy and strong! Yay! Lol
  • OhhHenry@xanga

    YES!  They poke fun of my organic, healthy eating lifestyle every chance they can, which gets quite annoying.  This is why I hate going grocery shopping with them.
  • thunder_kwan@xanga

    omg uve totally spoke my mind!!
    the FALLACY between living heathy and losing weight which morons tend to easily fall into.
    im def fit to hell tht i work out regularly and try my hardest to eat natural foods and healthy.
    ive worked my ass off to lead a healthy life which def not only makes me physically healthier but mentally feel so GREAT and more importantly,proud of myself from this.
    Those morons tend to "seduce"(which they think they can) u by saying"its ok to eat blahblahblah COS its NOT FATTENING(which in fact oil-drippin and packed in tons of saturated fat.) and ur skinny and jogging an hour can already elimate the fat and yaddayadda."They jus can never understand harm is harm and doing how much less of it cant make it seem righter,same goes for drugs.
    thus i read a lot on nutrition to make sure of myself get well-prepared for any "food fight":P.
    and its not like i eat less but even more in portions than those badmouthing secretly-jealousy-filling gals.its jus im of high self-discipline in eatin healthy foods like  veggies and whole grains when ur taking in tea spoons after tea spoons of sugars,salts and saturated fat:).
  • xueyo@xanga

    yes!!! so annoying. but actually, i do that sometimes too. :p my reason for it: i'm jealous that they're doing it and i'm not.


    sorry friends. :(
  • gypsybird@xanga

    @sweetcaroline09@xanga - they taste very different. you never noticed?
  • Mercredi@lovelyish

    It happens everyday! No i don't want to become fat. i'm happy the way i am and i enjoy life..

    so annoying
  • youbetternotcontrolme@xanga

    I have anorexia so I've been on a diet for 16 years.

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