Some people start fuming when they hear "I am so fat" or "I feel so fat" from
not so 'fat' people. It's become an almost automatic response to:
A) reply "You're not fat!"
B) hate them for making you feel fat.
C) Ignore them.
Since the debate seems so one-sided in hating those people who say "I am so fat", I've put it upon my shoulders to balance the debate.
To start, your argument is they know their not fat; therefore, saying so is a purposeful attempt to make you feel fat. Especially, when they fish for compliments, am I right?
Now, It's probably true they feel fat to
themselves, hence the disorder
a n o r e x i a. It's probably also true they are fishing for compliments; as I will explain: so what?
Let's assume you have had first hand experience or attempted to get in shape before. It's hard work, right? Eating well, working out, and sleeping right. Isn't that more reason to be proud of your hard earned results?
I don't understand. If those skinny/ fit people work hard to be that way, why shouldn't they receive compliments? Should they
not be allowed to feel proud of the way they look?
Well your argument is simply silly. Just because you can't find time to hit the gym or have self discipline doesn't give you the
right either. By
right, I mean the
right you feel that only 'fat' people can say they are fat or that
not so 'fat' people cannot say it.
Sorry, but if you take action to be less 'fat' instead of whining about it a.k.a. being unproductive, you might not find yourself in your current predicament.
As for the people who work hard and have difficulty achieving their desired body figure, don't feel bad. If you are trying and doing, but you suffer from 'fat' genes or something, why should you feel upset by other people's comments. You already know you are doing everything you can. Even if no one cares and acts superficially towards you, I feel for you. Right off, you should feel better than the people who grumble and maybe even the arrogant vain fools who only have a nice body with no depth in their being.
In summary, you tell them to shut up and they tell you to shut up. I say let's reconcile.
BOTH OF YOU
S H U T U P.
What do you say? A), B), or C)?
*As ridiculous as my counter argument sounds, the argument is just as ridiculous.
*As ridiculous as my counter argument sounds, the argument is just as ridiculous.
Comments (67)
Ha! Very interesting, You are right, and lets face it no one is happy with every part of themselves. I didnt mind getting b's in school, but I know people who would absolutely run themselves into the ground for straight a's and extra credit points. Lets just face it, Your skinny is Someone Elses fat!
So miss health kicker, you post lots of interested blogs, but i want to request one. You talk about working out and being so pale you nearly illuminate a room, but I want to know what your real life is actually like. A day in the life, or something like that. Do you diet, work out daily? Are you health concious or health obsessed? Just curious....
It makes people feel bad. "As skinny as she is, if she feels fat, then I must be a whale!"
Fishing for compliments is vain. If a girl works hard on her hot body, then she should be able to think, "I'm hot" without people telling her. And, if people want to tell her, they will without her fishing for it. Her fishing for it makes her look like an attention whore.
I think girls like that should do that "I'm fat" thing with other girls their size. Because then, at least the other girls can go on tangents about how their fat and etc. But doing it around someone bigger than you pisses them off. They probably already feel bad about their bodies, and it's not fair for this girl in her own insecurities to make them feel worse.
You do make a good argument though. Kudos.
Thin/fit people do not have the right to go around saying "I'm so fat" or anything of the like just to get compliments and make themselves feel better. Just as attractive people shouldn't say they are ugly for the same reason, It's annoying and stupid!
While everyone has good days and bad days, things they like about themselves and things they hate, NOBODY has the right to make others feel bad about themselves so they feel good.
When I encounter these types of people I usually ignore them, I don't know them so I don't know WHAT is causing them to say they are fat or feel fat, maybe they are seeking attention or maybe they have a real issue, anorexia or maybe they just didn't exorcise enough or ate something and feel too big or bloated. As I am not them I can't judge why they feel the way they do or why they said it.
If I know them and I KNOW they said it for attention, I will tell them to shut-up, go work-out, stop eating, which ever fits that person.
ha! ignore my earlier comment about a bio blog, I completely thought I was reading someone elses! ha! I feel silly....
god.. this again...?? I usually reply A&B..
A friend of mine told me one of her friend keeps saying that she is fat when her friend was like skinny as a skeleton.. My friend was told me that made her feel really bad.. and we kind of talked behind her back..
conclusion... if u are skinny, and u don't want people to talk behind your back, u better not say those three words.. >> I am fat.
im very guilty of saying im fat (even though I know I'm not) - though I try really hard not to say it in front of "bigger" people
I can't help it sometimes; after a big meal or eating something that is not as healthy as other foods in my diet (my eating habits, b/c im actually don't want to lose weight) I just feel like a fat-ass and I can't help but comment...
I usually tell them they get a little bit fatter each time they complain about being fat..
be happy with what god gave you geez! orrrr get of your ass and do something about it
Ironically, I'm lucky to have a girl-friend with an eating disorder that scowls at me everytime I complain about my slightly altered physique despite her distorted image of herself.
Also, I'm realistic and pragmatic, vanity is not my big vice. Realistically, my complexion is of more concern than my weight. I watch the foods I take in on how it affects the former more than the latter.
@mango_rat@xanga - Haha. I'm a mr. not a miss. All good.
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - I actually hear that quote a lot, as a guy. I wonder if woman say that to each other more often away from guys?
@prettyboy78@xanga - It's everyone's right to free speech, no? Actually I left out two pints, but you mentioned it. These were...
'I will say I don't agree with people putting someone down with clear
intentions to hurt (i.e. calling someone else fat) or being constantly
annoying (i.e. constantly saying how fat they are).People should not put others down.'
@UQuest@xanga - Yes, this again. Don't girls always talk behind each others backs anyways? Are you talking about guys?
@JoeytheGenie@xanga - At least your honest. I can't help think whether the skinny people will get pissed because they want to be fatter.
@StarlitGoodbyes@xanga - That's funny. I might use that next time XP.
@babygirllll4@xanga - Yeah.
@Parsimony@xanga - Interesting. So, being 'fat' in the face is more important than anywhere else?
@leadheavy@xanga - What I mean is I'm more concerned that oily foods will make my skin break out rather than how much extra curvy I am. I'm raised Canadian not Hong Kong so I am not afraid of curves nor do I want to be taken as androgynous.
rofl.. I guess we do (I'm a girl.. despite my avatar.. lol) XD totally forgot about that.. I guess.. maybe in general then??
when i hear thin girls say that i don't even respond anymore. i just want to punch them in their faces for being attention whores.
I choose C.
Simply because ... A) Like I had said, I WILL NOT state what they already know. What I will do if it gets out of hand is to tell them to quit being so insecure. B) Because I don't envy them. I'm 5'3" and 110lbs. Which is COMPLETELY HEALTHY. So no, I don't need to gain nor lose.
Perhaps they do deserve compliment. But I'll give it to them if I feel like it.If they said something like, "Oh! I lost lbs from working out." I'll tell them "GOOD JOB. You look fantastic."
but if they're trying to rub it in my face, fish for a compliment...no, sorry, it's not working.
I always get extremely angry, because most times I find myself in this situation, the other person is always fishing for compliments. I dislike people who bash themselves just for a few glory moments of their friends frantically lifting them up, and I'm not one to participate in that. If you really felt so horrible about yourself,
1) you wouldn't point it out 2) you'd do something about it.try being called anorexic, it's just as bad. Though I'm not that skinny, just skinny enough to be called that because some people can't differentiate the difference!
I think as long as you feel you're healthy and happy, screw what other people think!x Aim
hahaha funny thing... I was eating a chocolate chip cookie while I was reading this.
person, "I'm so fat."me, " =] Yup, yeah you are. Haha." (of course in a jokingly manner.)that is a very interesting point, I am personally not skinny, so yeah, I am the girl saying: I'm so fat!! all the time, but it try not to say it out loud anymore, because I learned it hurted other people, I gained A LOT of weight as an exchange student, and my host sister was a big girl, so I would say I was fat, and I was I have pictures to prove it, and she used to get all upset and scream at me, and it wasn't nice, it wasn't until later that I understood that first of all she never liked me, and I only made it worse when by saying I was fat it made her feel bad, becasue she was bigger than me, so since then I try not to say I'm fat in front of people
Whenever I say "I'm fat," which is not often, it's because I just had a huge meal or I've noticed that I have been getting flabby compared to my past self. So when I say it, I am comparing myself to a past or ideal version of myself, and not to the general populace. Self-centered, but so what? We can't be constantly aware of the feelings of everyone around us all the time.
From experience, I was once 280lbs, I dieted and exercised down to 142lbs, stopped worrying about it and got up to almost 180, am now at 167, so I have been in many diffrent situations. I know that I felt fatter at 142lbs than I ever did at 280lbs. And the worst part was having people fuss at me because at 142lbs they thought I was too skinny.
@babygirllll4@xanga - Your Right! you can look however you want with the right attitude and will power
depending on what they really think they are if they say "im fat" habitually i'd choose C just ignore them. But if they reallly seem to worry about their weigh gains even if it is not true, then i would say A.
i usually reply with A and then proceed to tell them how insecure and brainwashed they are being and sometimes, optionally blame their boyfriends for making them feel that way (true story bro)
i generally just hate those people, and only when they wont let it go and keep complaining i end up having a fit at them saying YOURE NOT FAT, SHUT UP ALREADY. these are all my asian friends who are like "omg im not 80lbs, im so fat, i m lke 90lbs!" and i just want to strangle them because im not thin/normal for an asian or even a canadian/american, and i do feel like a lot of the times they are being insensitive and self centred
@aka_lois_lane@xanga - Wow, seriously? Do you mean you felt fatter at 142 or better? So are you happy at 167 now? What do you do so you don't go up or down? I have this theory that whatever you do to get where you are and you stop, over time it goes back to where you were at. Don't know if this is true.
@heart_of_phi@xanga - I know many fat Asians, but that wouldn't matter because it doesn't affect your own thinness or fatness does it? Sounds a lot like the "I did so bad" "what'd you get?" "A-".