My Mom has had the gastric bypass and kept 160lbs off for four years... I know that if I were strong enough to eat the way that she does I could lose weight. She did a complete sugar dump... the thing is I see her eat more now then she ever has, It's what she eats and how much and how often...

I think it was EXTREMELY irrisponsible of your doctor to tell you to stop doing your diet... It seems that there could have been WAY healthier ways to make it through your pregnancy food eating wise I mean.

Anyway. I am sorry that you gained all of your weight back... I am more sorry that it seems you feel you now have no othewr option to lose it again...

I think some people that do it because they think it will be easier in then exercising and watching what you eat....the people I know that have had it still have health problems just different ones or the same ones...I personally, don't think the diet is a healthy one...I have a friend all she can eat for protein is cheese...and saturated fats are not healthy....

DO I think a person failed when they gain weight back after they have the surgery...my answer is no....mostly because I think they try...but what you have to do is not normal

My mom was well over 400lbs when she had gastric bypass about 9 years ago. She lost over 200lbs quite quickly.

She was suppose to be on this diet and all but nowadays she eats whatever she wants and eats about every two hours; she can't even digest any of it well. She is constantly plauged by the shits, bad gas, and crippling nausea...yet she doesn't take the hint that it is because of of her bypass and the way she is eating. She KNOWS it. I don't understand why she would eat something that hurt her so bad. Because it tastes good? I don't think it's worth it. I'm lactose intolerant...yeah, dairy taste good but the pain is not worth it. I know it's her decision to eat stuff that she knows damn well upsets her but it really does hurt my feelings.

She is over 300lbs again and it makes me sad time to time...she was given a gift.

Her diabetes is back and she is in constant pain.

I've been overweight for most of my life as well due to asthma medication. ...I was told this year that I had sleep apena. I had it BAD. The way it made me was not any different than having narcolepsy. It didn't take me one minute to make the decision to lose weight and that meant saying good bye to my medicine. No more joking around. I'm almost apnea free now, but I'm not done losing weight either.  

A lot of people fail after bypass surgery because they don't teach you how to really eat. Its not healthy for a human to eat so few calories, and its really dangerous. I think lap-band (or the removable ones) are a better option because you can go back to a normal diet and exercise routine after the results you NEED a there.

I think eating disorders are just as seriouse and real as alcoholism and drug addiction. I myself have been plagued with eating disorders all of my life. I'm either thinner than goal weight, or way above it. Right now I'm right at my goal weight. But the problem i have with my disorder is the mental obcession of my self image, and wondering of how others portray me. I realize that i'm not normal and never will be, but i'd rather be alittle hungry from time to time than be facing the fast food grave yard. Technically you did fail, but it would be easier than you think to get back on track. Think about those who have conquered cancer and other life threatening illnesses, makes things much easier.

The key is in increasing the exercise. No, it is not easy with a 2 year old. If your gym doesn't offer child care so you can workout for an hour daily, you may have to hire a babysitter, or have your SO watch him while you work out. Swimming is an excellent exercise, especially if you are obese. Way easier on the joints. Incorporate exercise into your raily routine, take munchkin out in the stroller or rolling jogger, get in a daily walk/jog. RE-focus on your food intake. No, it won't be easy, but you HAVE to do this. If you continue down this path, either your diabetes will ruin your body totally, or your eating will kill you. You owe it to your son to stay healthy enough to at least get  him through college. So for at least the next 18-20 years, you have to focus on staying healthy for him, (and for your husband) no matter how difficult.

My friend also had gastric bypass. She developed an infection from the original surgery and damn near killed her. She was about 5'0" and was 400 lbs. She could barely waddle around. After weeks in the hospital with the infection/adjusting to the bypass, she regained enough strength to function. She lost about 240 lbs. She had to have plastic surgery to remove the excess skin, flab, etc. She basically is now a sick thin person. She can't eat normally, never will. Her eyes are sunken in, she had a lot of damage to her teeth, she went from an apple to a pear, and still carries extra junk in her trunk. But she can at least walk around and function, is now wokring full time, etc. And she is alive to see her son graduate college and begin his career.

You are most likely younger than her, that is an advantage, that perhaps your body will recover better than hers did. She was in her mid 40's when she had the surgery.

I wish you luck. Your situation is hell, no other way to describe it. Constant battle, all day every day. Unless you have been close to someone with an eating disorder, you have no idea how insidious they are.

you didn't fail! you cant see it like that!
Would you choose to be lighter on the scales and have a baby boy not on the strong healthy side?

congrats on the lil bundle of joy =D
if you see yourself as a failure..  in my opinion... it'll just be harder to get back... perhaps you should see htings a lil more positive.. even view your son as a motivator towards loosing weight again...

I just read this article done by Times magazine.. and it says exercise actually makes you fatter... not that exercise itself but the psychology that we can eat more if we exercise.... and i'm trying to loose a bit of my tummy bulge~ I find it quite helpful to eat slower and wash everything down i eat with water... that also helps.. n every day, i eat a lil less than the day before... just a tiny bit.... so i don feel so hungry.....

i hope my way helps u a lil.. and be healthy for your son... body image isn't important.. just health....

@just__one__me@xanga - There are lots of enhalers that have steroids in them...so they make me eat, eat, eat. I've also been on and off steroids for chronic swimmer's ear. I am an active person and when not on steroids, a very heatly eater...but if I have to puff on a steroid enhaler I want to eat the legs off the table.

Thanks. Some days I'm still in my "narcoleptic" haze...but nothing like before. No one deserves to sleep like that. Even though I never had one, I'm thankful for devices like CPAP.

I have always seen gastric bypass as an quick fix because the diet and exercise management that the person has to maintain after the surgery, could have done to use that before the surgery. I do agree with the morbidly and super obese patients getting the surgery for critical life or death situations...critical emergencies. My friend's aunt had the surgery, didn't change old habits, and gained the weight back. And I have heard of many cases where the stomach just stretched back to post-surgery size. Then there is the whole psychological aspect especially with emotional eaters.

If you are healthier, you did not fail.

Try going back the very restrictive, new part of the diet for a week. And make sure you are getting enough protien. Protien is SUPER important in weight loss.

My husband had the lap band and I never realized how much work it would be until we got close to his surgery date. If you live in my house, you are on HIS diet. There's no seperate cooking or anything. We are in it together.

We all have a healthier relationship with food. My husband has had remarkable success and even surprised his doctor with the amount of weight he's lost. I've lost weight, too. The secret is cutting out 99% of processed food. We STILL get to eat the things we love, we just eat healthier versions.

Once upon a time, if it was food, it was nutritious. We've gone back to basics where there are no empty calories. Food is about tasty fuel for our bodies. Good for you food doesn't have to taste bad... actually we are finding that its delicious.  

@just__one__me@xanga - I actually was on a drug called theodor sprinkle as a kid. It was a steroid based athsma drug and it made me gain weight like crazy. I was so think when I was a child that they thought I would die. My mom was super sick and died on the table when she was going through c-section with me. But because of drugs, alcohol, and sickness, I wasn't a very healthy baby. SO when they took me off the steroid my body went through withdrawl and I gained more weight! It's  nuts! My whole family has huge weight problems too. 

I am going back to the liquid diet. I'm actually doing the Makers Diet Lemonade Cleanse for 2 weeks. It's an all lemonade diet where the lemonade is made with pure grade A maple syrup, with fresh lemon juice, cyanne pepper, and water. I've been on it before and I had no problem with dumping so I'm gonna do it for the first week cleanse and then a week to cut my stomach back to shape. I am praying it helps me. I'm so desperate to lose this weight! 

I am over 300 lbs. I have thought about doing the gastric bypass but I am not in very poor health. I can't seem to get pass 270 lbs. Maybe I need just to go to a dietician and try to lose weight that way. I am not interested in cutting myself unnecessarily. I would hate to die from complication of something I wanted but didn't need. Yes,my life would change if I was slimmer but I recognize that I need to do more work on the inside than on the outside. I have more of a problem with loving myself than anything else. I guess I will reconsider it once I have gone through all of my options.

Whoever posted this,I thank you for making me wake up and realize that I have to make a choice to live differently no matter whether I have the surgery or not. They tell you to start making changes now. I think I can go and get counseling about it and then way my options..