Monday, 07 September 2009
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I Don't Hate Fat People
Note: This is a clarification of my last post, "Since When is Being Overweight Being 'Real'?"
I didn't mean to start a controversy. I didn't mean for people to judge and assume things about me. I thought Xanga was a place that I could write what I thought and what I felt without all of the judgment and the profiling and stereotyping.
Yes, I'm thin. No, it's not natural (so please don't tell me I'm naturally thin or to eat a cheeseburger implying that I starve myself). I work out all the time. I eat on a well-designed nutritional plan that does not involve me starving myself, or throwing up after each meal. I am a normal person who does what I can to stay healthy.
That being said, I don't hate fat people and I'm not jealous of them. I see and know that they have an unhealthy lifestyle in some way or another that causes them to have excess fat on their body which will, no matter how you look at it, come back to haunt them eventually if they don't change. I am not jealous, nor will I ever be jealous, that it's accepted to be unhealthy; I just think it is wrong. It being accepted by everyone else is not going to make me eat Big Mac's and stop exercising. It's not going to make me accept or condone it. Condoning the unhealthy life that somebody overweight generally leads is, in essence, the same as condoning the unhealthy life and habits of a smoker, or an addict, etc.
Still, to further make my point, it IS possible to lose weight. As a student trainer who works with my school's football team, nutrition and working out are a huge part of what I focus on everyday. Last season was my biggest success story. Linebacker A was 16 years old, 6'2" and weighed 315 pounds at the start of the season. He was a great athlete - he could tackle anybody and he had the speed to catch up to anyone. The linebacker you want to have on your team. However, he could do it all even better had he not had so much excess fat on his body. Granted, most of his extra weight was muscle, but you couldn't deny that a lot of it was fat, too. He ate really unhealthily. But at the start of the season, my first season as a trainer, both him and I were committed to helping him eat better and lose some of the weight. Four months later, after the official end of the season and playoffs, he weighed in at 282.6 pounds. And counting. He's still working at it, and he's still just as good an athlete, if not better. So tell me that, with determination and the right plan, you can't lose weight. Tell me it's impossible. Give me whatever excuse you've got. And I can, and will, prove you wrong.
And please, don't judge me and say that I'm complaining because girls with my body type are suddenly out of the spotlight. Regardless, I never was in the spotlight. I was never airbrushed on a magazine cover. I never will be. I'm just a normal person who is unhappy about the social acceptance of adults who are overweight and unhealthy. And why would I be jealous or threatened by everybody else being unhealthy? Absolutely no reason.
I don't hate fat people. If anything, I am sorry for those who struggle to lose weight and are unsuccessful. I feel for you, really. And I want you to lose the weight, and at least keep trying. However, I feel no pity to those who live the unhealthy lifestyle with no attempt to change.
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You keep saying "overweight", overweight is not unhealthy. Obeisity is unhealthy if permitted by negligence (unlike medical reasons). Your wording is comming back to bite you in the butt when you say people who are "fat" or "overweight" shouldnt be condoned or accepted. Think about that.
I think I speak for everyone when I say, LET'S STOP ARGUING ABOUT THIS! Either love yourself or change and mind other people's business :D
fine...prove me wrong....I have PCOS...I have been working out 5-6 days a week for at least 1 hour day doing cardio and training with a trainer 3 times a week. I have lost exactly ZERO weight. I go down 3-5 and up 3-5. I eat a whole food, vegan diet light on fats, no sugar no soda I drink water all day long my calorie intake is approx 1200-1500...my Bp is 100/70 and my pulse is 60. What else do you need? You tell me you can get this fat off me then I am all for it. Please...knock yourself out.
You missed some of the main points people were trying to get across to you. A lot of health issues aside from eating cause people to be overweight. Thyroid issues, PCOS, or genetics can cause it. I am ALL for being healthy (and even worked to lose fourty pounds, myself) but just because someone has healthy habits it doesn't stop someone from being big all the time. You only sound judgemental, and that's why people came at you the way they did. You come off like a know-it-all trying to force your opinions on people who may not be able to help it, and nobody likes for someone to tell them they're no good for something they can't help.
This is getting old,
. Who thinks you are jealous of over weight people anyway?
@wolvenchic@xanga - That was well written
I don't hate fat people either.
I just hate people who are lethargic and without motivation to do anything in their lives, much like my roommate, sadly.
You don't even have to plan to exercise, just fucking do something with your life.
Remember that when you address sensitive topics with many considerations, viewpoints, and emotions attached and take a stance, you will always be met with intense opposition and passionate opinion, no matter which side you choose. If you can't handle that, try to avoid it altogether. You're right, xanga IS a place to post your opinion, just bear in mind that once you allow something to get featured, everyone else here is entitled to their opinions as well!
Remember to be kind, and as unbiased as possible. Try to back up your opinion with fact, if you can't, or if readers don't feel like you are responding to their particular points for disagreeing with you...prepare for backlash and to be made a personal target! Good luck, I am unfamiliar on the exact issues here, as I chose not to read your first featured entry and stumbled on this one by chance...the key is to respectfully voice your opinion and leave it be. If you feel you have by writing this clarification...let it go, you'll be the happier for it!
But no, I still disagree it is NOT always possible to lose weight! There are so many factors that play into it that sometimes it is extremely difficult and you still have no right to lump all overweight people in the same category (cheezy eating, tv watching category). If you don't like being put in the anorexic category for being thin, then I don't see how you think its ok to put all overweight people in the same group! Mostly I don't understand why you ever felt the need to share with the world how its "not that hard" to lose weight when you have never had to deal with a disease that prohibits you from doing so. I know xanga is for sharing your opinions, but your post came off as so offensive and angry that I'm not surprised you got so much backlash. It just sounded like an uneducated rant.
I agree with @wolvenchic@xanga! Overweight or fat is not bad obese is! I know people we are 10-20lbs overweight and considered "FAT" by medical standards and are perfectly healthy. But obese or 100lbs overweight or more and not at all healthy.
You keep saying that you don't "condone" being overweight, blah blah. I hope no one cares whether or not you "condone" their size. Who are you? The fact of the matter is that whether or not you are naturally thin, you have clearly never been overweight and known what it is like to feel like you have to get to a certain size to be accepted. You just dug yourself deeper into a hole with this second post. Please stop judging people. I hope no one takes your comments to heart.
I mean...why would u O_O
They ( I am referring to many of the people opposing you ) aren't saying it is impossible to lose weight. They are just saying that certain medical conditions ( the one that is getting mentioned most is PCOS ) make it extremely difficult to lose weight, no matter how hard one tries.
What is wrong with just accepting someone who is overweight, as long as they try their hardest to stay healthy?
Overweight doesn't equal unhealthy.
I agree with you 110 percent!
I applaud you. I left a comment on her blog basically saying the same thing. Great post!
- Kunoichi
@wolvenchic@xanga - @imTHEmeowMIXcat@xanga - Yes, Amen!
If anything, I seriously hope you learned something from this.
Before you write about such a sensitive subject, make sure you are knowledgeable enough of that subject through various perspectives that don't stem from your own biases.
If you're going to present your own opinion and view of a problem or topic, try not to come across as offensive, insensitive, and callous to those who may disagree with you.
But my opinion on this subject: I feel like every individual can only speak on behalf of themselves and their own personal experiences. Because the self, and no one else (I repeat, NO ONE ELSE), is only truly knowledgeable of one's own mind and body. Professionals would have a sense of this sort knowledge, but that sense is based off of their own experiences, empirical data, and general conclusions derived from a collection of many, many researched individual cases. That is why this entry and your other entry make you come across as judgmental towards those who you feel are much bigger than you and possibly even obese--heh, or should I say "overweight"? Although you may not have planned to project it, the feeling I get of you from reading both of your blogs is that you think that what you're saying applies to everyone, regardless of shape, size, and physiology.
If this is true, then wake up. By all meanings, the world and its contents is diverse and complex. You don't know a person's health habits just by simply looking at how big or small they are. Ever.
My answer to this whole ordeal: Live your own life, however way you want to choose to live it. Just mind your own business, because that is your only business here (unless a friend's/family member's overly-excessive weight is associated with pervasive patterns of psychological distress and impairment in their social, occupational, and/or academic life and becomes a threat to his or her life).
Why couldn't you just say that the first time ? I like this blog :)
To everyone who says that being overweight is not unhealthy, only being obese is... I respectfully disagree. For every 5 lbs over your ideal body weight you are, your risk for heart disease and stroke increase. 5 lbs is not alot of additional weight, I understand that. But it is enough to put additional pressure on your peripheral as well as organ vasculature, causing your heart to have to work harder at rest as well as during exertion. I am not arguing the fact that some people have very real medical conditions that make losing weight difficult or even impossible, the issue is whether they can change the situation or not, the situation is putting them at additional risk for health problems.
Both being thin and overweight have health risks. An even Thin people know what it is like to feel like they have to be a certian size in order to fit in. All through high school I got laughed at and called skinny mini because i was 5'7" and hovering at or below 100lbs. And I wasn't starving myself, it turns out i had a hormonal issue.
Why doesn't everybody just take care of themselves and get off everyone else's back?
i dont hate fat people
i just dont like people who moan about being fat and do nothing about it
As much as I agree with you not hating fat people. You, hell EVERYONE needs to stop being so damn apologetic for what they say. Being 50 to 100 pounds overweight is unhealthy and disgusting. Plain and simple. I have overweight friends, do I hate them? Of course not, but it doesn't mean I'll lie to them and tell them that they are just fine being the way they are. I'm getting tired of people having the balls to post a blog about something then apologizing after they "offended too many people". All that does is show weakness. And thats something common sense can do without.
She's 15. Don't mock the little retard girl.
@DiZzYMiSsLiZzI29@xanga - she's only 15. no one takes anyone seriously on xanga... I mean... its xanga.
But then again if some freakin giant 400lb person wants to eat 20 cakes a day... more power to them! None of my damn business.
@Gerald_Washington@xanga - Why do you hate other people? Their lives have nothing to do with yours. Seems kinda controlling to me all these people hating other people for how they run their lives. Seriously.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Oh, 15 years old, eh? Well, that explains enough. I was about to ask too.
Aha. Shit, her amusing profile description and latest blog entry sounds like that of a 15-year-old alright. Ahahah, sorry to mock, but I'm just simply amused. So I guess I must be on her "haters list" now?