Wednesday, 02 December 2009
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Help! My Emotions are Out of Control!
I am an emotional person, always have been, and I hate it! For me, crying is so commonplace that my family and friends don’t even bat an eye anymore when I burst into tears (they are caring people, believe me)! Now I am not ALWAYS an emotional basket case but I feel that I am more often than not or at least more often than I would like to be. Frankly, I just can’t take it anymore!
Ok, let me back track for a second, being emotional is just in my nature, I realize this, and I don’t think it is always a bad thing (though it sure feels like it sometimes). What I really feel is the problem is my inability to control my emotions.
This is how a typical day may go for me. Wake up, have my coffee, do about 30 minutes of cardio, shower and head off to work. My emotions through all of those activities are usually positive. During the course of the day (usually by afternoon) something small may happen and trigger a negative mood.
This is where I get stuck. Once I feel negative emotions it seems like I can not get myself to feel better. I just get trapped in this rut of negative feelings that lead to negative thoughts, that lead back to more negative feelings and so on. By the end of the day I will probably have cried about five times.
Besides driving myself crazy with my ever-changing emotions I am worried I am driving those I care about most nuts too! Also, I have really begun fearing that eventually if I do not make some kind of change, my family and friends are going to get sick of me and leave. (I have deeply rooted abandonment issues but we will delve into those in another post perhaps).
I have gone to therapy, though maybe more is needed. I have tried journaling, exercising, talking to family/friends, going for a drive, listening to music and so much more. But sometimes no matter what I do I just can not seem to make how I am feeling change.
How do you deal with unpleasant emotions?
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Drink.
ERr umm BIRTHCONTROL has helped me control this, :-/ gotta love hormone imbalance's
I do suggest more therapy and talking with your doctor. You could have a hormone imbalance. If all else fails, look up "Surprised Kitty" on youtube :)
Honestly i really dont have much advice but the advice about birthcontrol does sound like a great idea, maybe u should speak with your doctor and ask her if that would be a good idea for you.
I have a hard time believing that your family and friends will up and leave u because of who you are, I can see instead of crying u would lashout on them or lose your temper or something, but crying is a whole diffrent level because no one wouldnt want to just leave a person alone because they are crying, if anything they would want to stay close to you and make sure you are alright.
Whatever u choose to do i hope it works out for you...goodluck =)
This sounds a lot like me. I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I cry a lot. A couple of doctors diagnosed me with depression. I've been on antidepressants on and off, but I've been on them straight for a year now. I have found them to be extremely helpful as I don't break into tears as much as I do. In fact, if I skip a day, I can tell I'm not ready to be off antidepressants because my mood reverts back into sadness or sometimes, anger.
For me, listening to music helps. So does journaling and praying. The thing that helps me the most is playing with son. He's so happy and cheerful, it's contagious. However, I still feel like it's not enough and want to start counseling/therapy along with my medication. I think counseling will teach me how to turn my negative thoughts into more positive ones.
Cry. Watch some youtube videos. Play on OMGPOP and laugh whenever someone draws something ridiculous.. or ridiculously horrible. I'm too scared of seeing a therapist though. Sometimes I feel like I need it, yet other times, I feel like that's just an overblown idea... and that I could find help elsewhere (like exercise and stuff)
I wish I knew. I've been going through the same thing, and it's wearing my best friend thin because she's the one who mostly deals with me when I start to get emotional and negative.
believe in self help! engage in some kind of vigorous activity that gets your mind off things. my dad's a martial arts guy and it really helps with discipline and controlling your emotions. sounds kinda weird... but meditating when I'm about to break always works for me. I hope you get through this! good luck :)
Psychiatrist. Although therapy is good for stuff, if you can't handle it, try some antidepressants. You don't have to be miserable.
I sympathize with you & understand your concern(s).
Unexpectedly, I lost my dear hubby/best-friend 32 months ago. Finding myself suddenly without him, as well as having lost my Mom 6 yrs ago, my Dad 37 yrs ago, plus being an only child & barren as well. Therefore I've wept more in this 32 months than I have in my entire life.
I've found nothing in this world can help, soothe or sustain me, EXCEPT... except for my Faith in Christ...! HE is all that I need...
Blessings to you... Feel free to contact me if desired.
Therapy. It has helped me and I can not tell you how much I have improved. Also, since you have deeply rooted abandonment issues, he/she can help you with this too. It's all a matter of finding the *right* therapist for you. Some are effective, some are not.
UGH... I'm on birth control... while it helps me once a month, I feel like the rest of the time it has made me MORE emotional (as in, I'm more even, but that doesn't mean I'm much better when I'm not PMS'ing), but I feel your pain. Like with my current BF... I love him, and I know he loves me, and I know he really cares, but something will happen that will bother me and it's like I can't control myself from getting upset. I don't yell or anything like that, but I just get so FRUSTRATED, and it's so dumb... and I'm so afraid it will drive him away... It's like for a certain amount of time I can't control myself from feeling emotional, so I know how you feel. I think a psychologist/psychiatrist might help. I'm afraid to try antidepressants because I've heard it can make things worse, but... I think talking to someone helps.
medication
There's nothing wrong with you. That's just you being a woman.
Anyone? ANYONE?
Okay fine. I'm kidding. But seriously, I believe this might be a form of bipolar disorder. Trust me, I have it too. When I'm happy, I get REALLY happy, but when something upsets me, I destroy shit.
:D
- unoichi
I feel like I have the opposite problem. Things will eat me on the inside, but I have problems showing emotions, and when I do ( which is rare ), it's like a volcano explosion! Usually, when things bother me, I just pretend like I don't care, move on, but it still bugs me like crazy. Sometimes I really don't care, though, and I do move on. Or other times problems come back that I've repressed. I would not suggest doing what I do all the time. That isn't healthy either.
As for your problem, I can understand why you're worried. You're an emotional, sensive person by nature. That's your temperament. But it's not good to be at the extreme of anything. I would suggest journaling or talking to a psychiatrist if things are really that bad. You should also talk about your abandonment issues.
I'm not really sure how to help..
See a counselor - I'm not sure if you're dealing with depression or is it a hormonal thing.
Call up a friend who always makes you laugh or smile :).
wow... i feel the same way. everyone tells me i'm "overdramatic" because i get upset and angry at the smallest things, and i find myself crying/feeling upset most of the day also. i'm seeing a psychologist and i have not been diagnosed with depression, but i do believe i have anxiety/panic disorder. i feel this contributes a lot of my mood swings and my inability to control my emotions. no matter what i do, i cannot hide my sadness, and it makes other people around me miserable... i can't take it anymore, either, i'm in therapy trying to fix it, but i don't know what else to do.
and i am on birth control as well and i think it's made me worse, to be honest
@oohlookitsmeg@xanga - That's what happened to me.
Don't believe the hype.
I used to be how you are, and I still have PMDD, but the only thing that has helped me is time.
I cry at car commercials sometimes. Usually if I'm getting overly emotional, I try to pause and think about why I am feeling that way. A lot of times, if I want to cry for example, I will go ahead and do it, that usually makes me get over it and end up laughing about it.
I have the same problem. It is beginning to effect too many things that I can't afford to have it affect.
sounds like your therapist isn't doing her job.
Some people just aren't well-equipped to deal with their negative emotions. I'm similar; it also takes a lot for me to get out of a negative mood, even when it was only something small that bothered me.
Keeping up with therapy might be the way to go. Talking with someone who can help you understand the why and how might make you less likely to react in certain ways to situations.
FYI, I also cry at the drop of a hat. We just have to make sure it doesn't interrupt our lives. :)
i cope with my depressive black metal list, it really works!!!!!