I think it depends on the relationship. People need sex as a healthy part of a happy life. I know when people are new couples, in a "honeymoon phase" they have a higher frequency. That's the way I am, at least.

I find this post is kindda interesting. 

i think it depends on the couple. if theyre happy, power to them.

it just depends on the couples for sure but for me, i would like to have sex all the time.

it for sure depends on the couple... if it were up to me though, sex everday, like meals haha. for sure.

As others have said, stuff like this is subject to the individuals in a relationship. Statistics like this only point out averages. There is no normal, or a real answer to 'how much should I be doing ____'. If you're got a high libido, you probably won't have a successful relationship with a person with a low libido and vice versa.

I see a healthy relationship as one where both people respect the others wishes (as in what they are willing to do and not willing to do). There are some things that I think I wouldn't like doing but am willing to try and other things that I will put my foot down on and won't even try it. And this goes beyond sex too. It's a compromise. Also making up stupid excuses is probably the worst thing you can do in your relationship. Yes there will be times when you genuinely won't be able to have sex with your spouse (I say spouse because I don't agree with premarital sex and I am waiting for marriage). But saying I'm tired or I don't feel good to get out of having sex with your spouse can turn into an unhealthy habit. But you should expect the same from your spouse as well. Once again relationships are a compromise.

um, no. men don't always want it more than women. i wouldn't even say the majority do. it's just the way men are portrayed. for example, my sex drive is much higher than his.

If you want to know the reason for this, look no further than male infant circumcision (I.E. cutting up your genitals at birth), I mean it's kind of hard for circed guys to sexually-satisfy your women past a certain age when you lose sensitivity as you get older, and are missing 20000 nerve endings and the MOST SENSITIVE part of your penis. This has basically been proven by studies in Europe etc. but we won't admit it here since circumcision is making billions of dollars each year for doctors, women are using facial creams made from infant foreskins, and A LOT of men would be pissed as hell and distraught and unproductive if they find out the truth as I have.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "NORMAL"!!!!

As briefly said, if you're both happy and connected with each other, the frequency of sex is good for your relationship. The point of a "long-term, monogamous relationship" is not to have sex. It doesn't freaking matter how often as long as the sex helps strengthen the relationship!

AND MEN DO NOT ALWAYS WANT IT MORE THAN WOMEN!!!!

I almost always want sex more often than my husband. It's not like he doesn't want to have sex--he does--it's just that when something else is on his mind, he can't simultaneously wish he was having sex. I can wish to have sex anytime, lol.
The idea that men only ever want sex all the time has done SO much damage to the self-confidence of so many perfectly normal women. It makes us feel rejected when he's "not in the mood" because we figure we must be doing something wrong. It made me wonder if I was obsessed with sex and in need of actual help becuase it was so firmly ingrained in my head that no man would willingly turn down his wife's offer of sex, especially if made in an extra sexy manner. Well guess what. Some wonderful men WILL turn it down--politely, gently, and appreciating the offer--simply because they happen to be exhausted at the moment or would rather spend time relaxing. There are men out there, believe it or not, who occasionally PREFER cuddling. It's not that they reject sex, they just aren't always turned on.

Boy this post annoyed me.

In answer to the question, it varies for us depending on our schedules and if I'm pregnant or not (pregnancy usually increases the frequency for us). We don't keep tabs on it. We just let it happen when we need it to happen. If I had to hazard a guess, we probably average something like twice a week when life is being normal.

~V

I can only say what is normal for myself and my husband, and for us, it depends on what phase of my cycle I'm in. During my period, very little real sex is had- maybe once or twice near the end. During ovulation- every day, once or twice a day, for about a week. For the other two weeks out of the month, 4 days of the week is pretty typical.

This wasn't always the case, but I found that when I got off of the hormonal birth control and anti-anxiety drugs, my sex drive shot dramatically higher- close to what it was in high school, with all those hormones running rampant.

Here are our statistics, to put us in perspective- I'm 25, he's 26, monogamous, married for 3 years, slept together for the first time 2 weeks before the wedding, no children, not trying to conceive, and he IS circumcised.

@superGchik@xanga - [i would like to have sex all the time]

I know on the face of it I'm somewhat contradicting myself when I say this, but Hell yeah, so do I!!!

Unfortunately I've only had sex about 7 times in my life. Oh well. It's a good thing I have standards anyway lol.

Sex is crazy expensive if you use one of the more common forms of birth control. It's part of the reason why I avoided sex until recently when I started using FAM.