Wednesday, 06 July 2011
Saturday was a beautiful sunny day and I decided to take advantage of it by driving to the beach. I drove some of my friends there, including my 14 year old sister, who was meeting up some of her friends.
My friends and I settled in and my sister found her friends. They were just a couple of feet away from my group. After playing a game of volleyball I went over to my sister's group to see if everything was okay. Everything was NOT okay. Almost all of my sister's friends who are around the same age as her were drinking from a beer can.
I was shocked and angry. My overprotective-sister mode kicked in and I sternly ordered my sister to get her things together and make her way back with me. As we were walking back to my area one of her friends yelled to me, "Stop acting like an old lady." I didn't turn around.
I said to my sister, "I don't want to know what you did, but don't do it again." She was clearly embarrassed. At that moment, that was the best way I could confront the issue.
I was well aware that some of her friends drink occasionally at birthday parties, but I had never seen it with my own eyes. I always advise her to stay away from alcohol because she is so young and it's terrible for her body and if she ever has questions about underage drinking to speak to me first.
When I was her age and in my first year of high school, none of my friends drank alcohol nor did any of my classmates. It's weird to me that teenagers are beginning to drink at this age and I'm not sure as to how I help my sister understand that she should drink when she's of the the legal age and more knowledgeable about alcohol. I know how she feels; I've been in that peer pressure position before, but how do I convey that to her?
I considered telling my mom, but that would be breaking my sister's trust. I'm just not sure on the right way to protect her.
How would you handle this situation? At what age were you confronted with the issue of alcohol?