Monday, 12 September 2011
I just want to get this straight right away for everyone... GenderQueer has NOTHING to do with who you do or do not have sex with.
Genderqueer is a catch-all term for gender identities other than man and woman, thus outside of the gender binary and heteronormativity. People who identify as genderqueer may think of themselves as one or more of the following:
- both man and woman (bigender, pangender)
- neither man nor woman (genderless, agender)
- moving between genders (genderfluid)
- third gender or other-gendered; includes those who do not place a name to their gender
- having an overlap of, or blurred lines between, gender identity and sexual orientation
Some genderqueer people prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns such as one, ze, sie, hir, ey or singular "they,""their" and "them," while others prefer the conventional binary pronouns "her" or "him." Some genderqueer people prefer to be referred to alternately as he and she (and/or gender neutral pronouns), and some prefer to use only their name and not use pronouns at all.
Despite what we're force-fed by the media and by society, it really is okay to be inbetween genders if that's where you feel you need to be. It's almost preposterous that, depending on the flesh between our legs, we are expected to behave in certain ways;
Gender is not black or white, man or woman. It's a spectrum - it stretches from the extremes of gender to the gray area in-between.