Friday, 23 September 2011
We've all had problems with people-- whether it be an argument with a friend, disagreement with our parents, or even our coworkers. But it might be in your best interest to get things sorted out-- because holding a grudge can is not only detrimental to your relationship, but also to your health.
Holding a grudge has become such a significant problem that is now a diagnosis: "post-traumatic embitterment disorder, or PTED, for those who can't forgive the people who have wronged them." Why you should let go of the grudge, and how you can let go of it?
Why you should let go:
Some health factors involved include high blood pressure, elevated heart rate, and risk of heart disease. It is also noted that negative emotions sap your energy-- making you even more tired throughout the day.
How to let go:
- Vent to another friend -- When I'm upset and I confront that someone or vent to a friend, I feel much better: I get to release my stored feelings, and also get another person's point of view, which is an opportunity for me to realize that I was in the wrong too.
- Remember you're not the only person who has ever been wronged -- Everyone's been wronged, and (surprise) everyone lets go sooner or later... Isn't it better for you to just let go sooner?
- Know that holding a grudge does nothing beneficial to you -- you holding that grudge has no benefits. Period. It's not healthy to be bitter about something in the past and let it hold you back. You can't get stuck in the past when there are so many other things in the future!
- Confront that person -- you'll probably realize that the other person had apologetic feelings, and that there was a misunderstanding between you two!
How do you let go of a grudge? Have you ever been wronged and felt justified to be upset? What do you think?