Thursday, 13 October 2011
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PostSecret Pick: Weight and Orgasms
This secret really caught me off guard, and instead of fleeing to Google to learn about the relationship between the two, I wanted to come to you guys.
Is there a correlation between your weight and your orgasm? Someone shed light on this for me!
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When I'm fat, I'm insecure. When you're insecure about your body, sometimes it's harder to let go, and, well, orgasm. Maybe that's what she meant.. Or maybe she has heart problems because of her weight and is scared to orgasm because she's afraid she'll have a heart attack? Heck, I don't know.
I don't have any facts off the top of my head but my first thought was excess weight effected self confidence (making it hard to get relaxed) OR that excess weight got it the way or how hard you're getting boned.
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Maybe?
lol.
i thought this post was titled "weight and organisms." i can't read >.>
This link has a lot of information about the subject.
I don't think so... When I've had sex, Ive had the best sex and they've loved my "O" and nothing to do with weight. Who ever said that is full of shit (or I'm a very lucky girl, actually the ones who I have been with they say I'm one of a kind, rare, Idk)... just have fun, relax and enjoy your loved one.
maybe she doesnt think anybody will have sex with her because of her weight?
@carydeeluxe@xanga - lol! It's always the opposite for me. That awkward moment in biology class when you confuse "organism" with "orgasm"....
I have not noticed a correlation in my own life between the two, and I've been all over the scale.
I'm fairly sure it has to do with personal self-consciousness.
A lot of doctors say that losing weight improves your sex life. I believe it. I've seen noticeable changes. Doctor Oz had a thing on it weeks ago about the age of one's genitals beyond 30 and one of the ways to solve the problem was to exercise, eat right, and drop some weight. So the secret makes sense, to me.
...to lose weight to become more "attractive," gain partners, and orgasm? That's the only correlation I can see.
I'm incredibly overweight. I'm 5'8'' and 270 lbs. But you know what? I have multiple orgasms! Not just from oral or fingering, but also many times during intercourse. I had no problem getting a boyfriend because of my weight, and I have no problem having sex. This is just someone's insecurity - not a direct correlation!
@HollowTendencies@xanga - I laughed.
I'm not sure what the connection between being heavy and orgasms, but I know being overweight can definitely mess with self esteem and confidence. Being insecure can make someone not want to be seen naked by others so maybe she meant not being sexually active with people when she's heavy, but still, orgasms can be achieved by other means. Also, when you're preoccupied with something such as your weight, things you have to do, work and other things, it is harder to reach orgasm, I think. Maybe that's what the submitter meant?
I guess maybe...depending on your weight to begin with weight loss could make you more aware of your body.
Wow, that sounded disgusting.
@At_Sixes_And_Sevens@xanga - Yeah you do!
@missmerlot@xanga - whoopsie-dunkles!
look, graphs!
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/10-charts-about-sex/Hm...having been thin, then very overweight, and now somewhat overweight, I can offer this... When I was thin, my drive was greater, but I didn't orgasm very often. I was happy enough, though, with my bedroom life. When I was very overweight, I didn't want to as often, but when I did, WOW was it powerful! And now, somewhat overweight, I've found a great balance with desired frequency and how often I reach the O. So I don't think that being overweight will stop you from having orgasms UNLESS your emotional well-being gets in the way or you're having big health problems. Mindset is a huge part of it. When I was big, my husband still thought I was beautiful and sexy, and if I listened to him more than I criticized myself then I could have a great time with him. If I was too focused on how ugly I thought my body was, then I couldn't. I was happier when I let myself see myself as sexy and curvy...and that's what it really comes down to.
hmm. i can't see why there'd be a connection between the two. surely if you're happy with your body/secure with it then that means you can relax enough to have an orgasm?
and likewise if you're unsecure about it then you would be less able to orgasm?
fat or thin, i'd think you'd have to be comfortable in your own skin to let go enough to have an orgasm.
So for myself, since I'm not the most skinniest girl and I love sex, I have great orgasms. Size has nothing to do with it. I guess some who have commented are right; you let your self-confidence get in the way...get over yourselves. You're all freaking gorgeous someone out there wants you and you can manage a damn orgasm. Free your mind!
A wise friend once told me it's all mind over matter. I believe he's 100% right.
Holy orgasms, Batman!
What?
Frankly, I couldn't imagine better orgasms. My head would explode. I'm by no means skinny, but I'm comfortable with who I am and what I look like. I think having self-love (not the vibrator kind, but actually loving and accepting who you are what you look like) has more to do with it. Orgasms start in the brain. Only a small percentage of it is physical... hell, the physical part is easy is as pie. The mental part is the trick.
The right guy doesn't hurt either. Some men have no idea what to do... emotionally or physically.
But weight? The only thing physically to worry about with weight is a hormone imbalance, but then that imbalance is usually too much testosterone, which doesn't hinder orgasm from what I know. But being told fat people can't get off probably does....
@hotteayummy@xanga - Try being in calculus and getting points off because you accidentally and repeatedly write "sex" instead of "secx". xD
I find this interesting as I actually have better orgasms now that I weigh more. 5 years ago I was fairly skinny, but over the last couple years I've ballooned out, and let me tell you I have never had such mind-blowing O's. The only thing that gets in the way for me, regarding my weight, is worrying what my husband really thinks. Sure he says he loves me no matter how fat I am, but I worry that sometimes he's just trying to be sweet and show me affection despite my body; that's the one big thing that can prevent climax - well, that and worrying about accidentally hurting him while on top, but that's besides the point.
I think all women are different. Some never orgasm, some only do under certain stringent circumstances, and some gals have can have a good time just thinking about things that arouse them. Furthermore, I think that we all need to find our own, individually tailored, comfortable medium where we can love our bodies enough to both live and play in them.
I can't orgasm no matter what. Which is really weird because they say it usually happens to girls that don't know their bodies and grew up thinking masturbation was sinful. I never grew up that way. I remember exploring my body at a young age. I guess God just hates me.