Tuesday, 01 November 2011
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People Judge Me For Being Thin
Fact: I'm a small person. I'm 5'2" on a good day, and weigh around 100 pounds. I'm definitely thin, but I'm proportionate; I mean, small is small. But for my entire life, I've endured comments from people saying I'm too thin."Oh my god, you're so thin! You must not like food, right?"
"We gotta get some meat on your bones!"
It even went so far as a camp counselor of mine thinking I was anorexic a few years ago.
I'm NOT, and it bothered me that she thought I was because I ate every single meal with her every day. But because I'm thin, it automatically means that I must have an eating disorder, right? What people don't realize is that it doesn't take much food to sustain me. Small body, small appetite. You do the math. I'm not on a diet. I love food, and am not even a little bit picky.
Because of this, my weight is a really sensitive issue with me. I know I'm fine, and my doctors have never said anything about my weight being abnormal. I'm healthy. Yet whenever my weight or eating habits are mentioned, my temper flares up and I get really defensive. Of course, this makes it seem like there is something wrong with me. I just hate getting hated on and judged for something I have no control over.
Look! I eat pie!
Does anyone get this too? How do you deal with it?
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- From: darci
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That's a good issues to have, though. People used to tell me that and I secretly liked it.
I will trade you. My gay fabulous friend is always telling me i am lookin fat! i rather be called thin. lol.
I stopped caring almost two decades ago. Two decades ago, I would throw insults back. Now I just ignore people.
People judge me because I exist. Who really gives a fuck.
i'm five two and weigh less than you. i've gotten shit, having people attack me thinking i was a crack head or something. my family has to say something every time i see them about my weight, trying to shove food down my throat, don't believe me when i say i eat even though they watched me eat two plates of food. prettty annoying, but i ignore it. it's stupid to make it an issue.
Haters gonna hate.
I get that sometimes. I either make a smartass comment back ("Well cook me something good and I'll eat it then") or ignore it. The people who I'm closest to couldn't care less what size I am.
i'd rather be seen as anorexic than a lazy, fat ass. learn to count your blessings, dear. skinny people still have it better.
usually plump people make the too thin weight/are you on a diet comments to me. they are fat but I don't point out the obvious, yet they often are insensitive and point out my weight to me as if I'm the problem. quite the double standard, because if I often pointed out their weight or joked about it, they'd be furious with me-are you plumping up to keep warm in the winter?!:D
No matter what some people are going to judge something about you, and some of them will feel like they should say it to your face. It can be hard to ignore that and it DOES hurt, but it's something that happens and our lives are more comfortable if we learn to let it slide.
We can't control what other people think, feel, say or do. And it's good to realize that people do and say things for their own reasons. It really has little to do with us. They are saying more about themselves and what they are uncomfortable with than anything about you.
People just need to realize that being "thin" isn't just about your weight. If your short, your healthier weight will be lower. Its natural and people need to stop judging like that all the time.
I'm 5'7 and 100lbs. I don't try to be skinny, I have been this way for as long as I remember. My whole family is really skinny though so I know I just inherited it. I always get accused of having an eating disorder and people tell me I'm too skinny and that boys wont be attracted to me because they like girls with a little meat on their bones. Then of course there is the whole "curvy is beautiful" thing. I'm all for empowerment but these stupid girls have now taken it as far as to think they are better than everyone else because they are bigger. Uh no! It's so irritating. Next girl that says something like that I'm throwing a cupcake at her. I am small but guys like me too. Plus I am tiny but I have a natural D cup so :P I have fat in the right places lol I try not to let it bug me but some days people just push my buttons and I make snotty comments back or if I am feeling really mean I pig out in front of them like Kim Kardashian in the carl's junior commercial, on all kinds of junk food I know they can never eat and totally rub it in (I know that's pretty messed up).
wow..I am 5'4 and 95 pounds and people don't tell me I am too skinny, definitely not that I am anorexic. I mean yeah sometimes they are like "ohh you are so skinny, I am so jealous of you" :)
maybe in Europe, size xs is considered normal...I don't know though.
Yep, I had the same "problem". Some people can't figure out that some are skinny naturaly. If health is good, doctors don't worried about it, why are those persons bad-mouthing ? May be because they have a problem with their own image.
Let them talk.
Ah well least there not saying your too fat, that hurts more. Consider yourself lucky that you are thin and dont have an eating disorder.
I get them same criticisms, and I'm 5'8", haha. Just ignore it as best you can - I know it does get annoying but most of the time, their comments come from jealousy. I'm one of those "lucky" people who can eat whatever they want and not gain weight, and people are always commenting on it, but it's not in a nasty way at all. Just consider yourself lucky that you've got a good body shape :)
people will always judge you regardless
fuck the haters.
you're lovely :]
I've heard this all my life .it use to make me mad but now I really just dont care.people talk because they can . nothing is ever good for any one.
I'm 5'6" with a very small frame, small breasts, etc. I'm not as skinny as I used to be, but yes, I did get comments on my weight. I was a dancer and for a long time, I stayed between 103-110 pounds. I was NOT anorexic. I ate what I wanted, when I wanted, but because of anxiety twisting my stomach in knots and dancing every day for at least 2 hours, I was thin. But I still got my period and functioned normally. None of my doctors ever said anything about it.
I never wanted to change my body because of it though. :D I seem to have been born feeling okay with my body, because I always thought that they needed to stop being so rude, not that I needed to gain weight.
I have no idea why someone would even think another person is anorexic if they see them eating. I'd worry first if I see my friend is not eating anything, regardless if she is thin or thick.
I might get crap for saying this, but it also seems like your body just stores fat differently...rather in your waist, it goes to your chest. Mine mainly goes to my hips and butt. That is why women have different shapes, because we have all different places for the fat to go.
Yes and OMG do i HATE it! My whole life I've been so skinny and I can't help it I'm serious I eat like a fat kid. I always get, "No way you had two kids, are you aneroxic bla bla bla." People need to realize when they say things like that, it'd be the same as if they went up to a bigger person and said omg your so fat, you eat too much. And I know this is mean but now I'm almost 24, Im 5' weigh about 95 lbs. and I'm so OVER hearing shit about my weight so now when someones like, "OMG your so skinny, I reply with OMG your so fat." They give me a crazy look and I'm like yeh its not nice is it?
I'm someone who used to weigh well over 200 pounds. I'm now in the 140-150 pound range at 5'6 and people give me shit about my weight all the fucking time. I by no means look tiny, but because I've lost so much weight and continue to work out to tone my body/stay in shape, I get comments from family and people I'm in close contact with about how I must not eat, I must have an eating disorder, I'm disappearing, I should gain some weight back, etc. It's sometimes hurtful, often unwarranted, and extremely obnoxious. My mom's even accused me of starving and purging, even after I've spent all day eating and doing things with her.
I got less comments about my weight to my face when I was fat, and to be honest, I prefer it that way. Keep your mouth shut, especially if you're about to less loose something insulting or a backhanded compliment. It's fucking rude....Anyway, I mostly deal with it by ignoring it, smiling and saying "Yes, I have gotten thin, thanks for noticing," and/or bitching to my best friend about it, who often says that once you start looking a certain size, people feel like they have a right to comment on your body, whether you want them to or not.
I wish people would keep their rude comments to themselves! Ugh.
When I was in Jr. High, I lost a ton of weight. The girls at my lunch table also noticed that I didn't eat my sandwhich in my lunch. They assumed it was because I was anorexic, not that I hated balogna sandwhiches, which I did. They went so far as to get a teacher involved, lol. I was eating just fine at home, I just hated what my mom packed me for school.
Now, I'm overweight and trying to lose weight. I get comments now, too, about my weight.
I swear, people are never going to be happy. You're either too fat or too thin. People just need to shut up!
When not pregnant, I'm exactly like you. 5'2" and 95lbs. People think I'm SO TINY. Most of the time, their comments are inappropriate. Telling me I need to eat a sandwich is offensive to me. I'll eat when I'm hungry, thank you. I went to the DR when I was 18 about chronic headaches. I saw a different DR in the practice because mine was super busy and they had the nerve to say to me "Not eating enough will give you headaches." ..... Oooo-kay, THANKS for the information? But that doesn't explain why I have headaches.
Some people on here made comments like "it's better to be on the anorexic side than the large side" but I tend to disagree. On a health note, sometimes it is healthier to be a little too skinny than a little too large. But in a lot of cases, it's better to be 5-10 lbs over the average than it is to be 10 lbs under the average. Also, being judged for "eating too little" when you eat just fine is very offensive to those who have to deal with those types of comments so don't downplay it. It's never a good feeling to be accused of having ANY kind of disorder when that's NOT the case - most of the time, it's FAR from it.
i'm 5'1 & have happily gained weight from being a terrible 90 lbs to 105 lbs & i feel so much healthier. believe it or not, some people such as myself have problems putting on weight because of the uninterest in most foods....sucks being picky when you can't help it. i feel tedious.